Hi, I’m Pam, a Certified Mid-Life Coach, I help women move through the mess of midlife + menopause with ease and to figure out what's next.
BREATHE it doesn’t need to be this way or feel like this.
The midlife shake up is something everyone gets to experience; menopause is for those of us lucky enough to be women.
It usually brings overwhelm, confusion, and self-doubt to a whole new level. I can help you avoid the mess & misery of it, the unknown of the it, the fear and uncertainty of it.
You might notice yourself thinking, “I don’t understand”, “I never used to”, or some other question that only fuels the fear, the unknown, self-doubt and uncertainty
It doesn’t have to be this way, I do understand, and I can help.
I can help you feel less stressed, use the sense of urgency that has come into your life to gain perspective and clarity. You will regain your sense of purpose, feel back in control and more like yourself again.
I understand If you find this hard to believe, that’s ok, we can talk about it.
It’s a different kind of stress that seems to come from know where.
You know how when woman get somewhere between 40 & 50 and their hormones, you know the ones that kicked in at puberty, begin to leave, seemingly overnight they are suddenly dealing with all sorts of change. They begin questioning everything, and don’t feel like they used to!
Well, I help them navigate the changes without going crazy.
Shara came to me because she'd been dealing with perimenopause, fatigue and overwhelm for 3 years. Nothing was helping. Now, she's waking up with energy, the brain fog is gone, the sense of urgency she felt has been replaced with a sense of freedom, & she has a sense of purpose in her life.
If you are thinking you can’t seem to do what you used to, and “I don’t understand”, is a regular thought that enters your mind, or
feel like you don’t know yourself anymore, maybe you’re wondering “what’s the point” you’re in the right place.
I help midlife women figure it out, live their best life, stress less and discover what's next.
If you're a woman struggling with the midlife + menopause change you're in the right place,
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Mid-life is often associated with a time of reflection and stress as individuals consider aging, mortality, and their life's purpose, and then on top of that as women we get the bonus of menopause.
Recently, this time in a women’s life has been termed “middlescence” because it is a type of reversal of the adolescence experience which is also a time of change and transition that can cause confusion and stress.
Of course, midlife + menopause is different because many will be having parents passing away, becoming an “empty nester,” etc. its most significant feature is a growing interest in one’s internal life, the level of reflection this time of life triggers in us can cause a high level of internal conflict, and uncertainty, a sense of not really “knowing ourselves” or feeling a bit lost can creep in.
Well, I help women stop stressing about it, and to navigate this time of their lives with less stress and more ease.
This is for you…
If you are at a place in your life where you are feeling like everything is changing and thinking there has got to be more to life, an underlying sense of urgency has entered your life, a sense of something is missing or lacking nags at you.
If you have noticed brain fog and confusion, an inability to think straight, that making decisions fills you with anxiety that you didn’t use to have. If you are feeling a loss of direction or a crisis of confidence, then hormonal changes are likely in play.
If this is you, I know it doesn’t feel good, it is not a wanted change, you wouldn’t choose to feel this way for all the money in the world, but I promise you, this is normal and with a little help can be one of the best times of your life. I have been where you are, and I know this will be hard to believe but everything is ok, nothing has gone wrong.
Would you like to choose how to use this normal time in every woman’s life as a chance to rediscover your passions, and purpose, to build closer connections and have more fulfilling experiences, to stress less & enjoy life more!
Hi, I’m Pam, I am passionate about empowering midlife women, life, and horse
I had just had my 50th birthday, although in hindsight I suspect perimenopause started about 5 years earlier, I was just too busy to notice the subtle signs, but what we have been taught are “key” birthdays to celebrate in combination with perimenopause triggered the unwanted roller coaster ride.
I had a hysterectomy at 27 years old, and still had my ovaries, I wasn’t having hot flushes, although I started having intolerance to foods, and hay fever and sinus issues that I had never previously experienced.
I couldn’t think straight, felt more anxious than normal, despite all of that I decided it was probably stress, because I worked in a high-pressured job at that time for the Department of Corrections. So, I ignored it all, of course I know now what was happening.
It is amazing how little I knew about menopause, the changes, the symptoms or the management of it, I knew nothing other than hot flushes were a symptom and I wasn’t getting those.
I felt this sense of urgency that I had never had before, I was changing, I felt different, and yet externally everything was the same. I have always been a “busy” person, strong, plenty of energy. This changed to waking regularly through the night, I felt an overwhelming tiredness most days and became easily irritated, I got Rosacea, a redness to the facial skin, joint pain and muscle tightness.
One of my strengths is taking action, always a self-help geek, I started reading, searching google, not once did midlife or perimenopause come up as a result of any symptom searches. The searches offered depression, therapy, meditation etc. even my doctor suggested I could try anti-depressants and see if that helped.
Finally, I spoke to a friend who suggested Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) it helped but it wasn’t enough.
At the beginning of my midlife, I had no idea what hit me, one day I was coping and the next I wasn’t, or at least that’s what it felt like. It never even occurred to me that I had hit the “messy middle”, or that we are biologically wired to have a “middlescence” just as we are biologically wired as children to go through “adolescence” which we all know is a confusing time in a young person’s life, well middlescence is the same but different.
The triggers of stress are many, it could be relationships, family, money, health, work, internal stressors, community and world problems, or other responsibilities. It could be one, two or all of these, because we know the cause we can figure out what we need to do or know exactly who to get to help us.
Midlife stress is different, it seems to come from nowhere, there is no viewable cause, no obvious cause and there is no way to avoid it. Midlife + menopause is life altering, and despite knowing it happens, it catches us unprepared. Everything feels like it’s changing, and it feels out of our control, but you can choose how and what it changes for you, who you become as a result of the experience so you can make the most of your next 50 years.
Sarah says: “I know that the help that you have given me has prevented me from being overwhelmed by some of the issues and able to keep a more healthy perspective. I feel so much more confident about making decisions that allow me to acknowledge my own needs as well as those of others.
Kourtney says: “Although I found much of our sessions very confronting, I can confidently say I gained so much from our discussions. Your advice and tools have continued to be repeated in my mind in various situations since and have been very useful. I feel like I am in a better mental and emotional space at work, and you helped me to realise my worth in my role. I also am putting more emphasis on myself and spending more time with my family, focusing on quality time with my kids.”
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Janene says: “You’ve made such a difference, Pam, although the same stuff is happening at home, I am dealing with it much better. So helpful, Thanks a million.”
Dyane says: “What I have spent years trying to figure out on my own and with counsellors you have helped me figure out in just 2 weeks, it’s amazing”.
Dallas says: “Pam thank you for all the support, understanding and time you have given me to discuss whatever I feel is the highest priority on my list. I appreciate how you guide me to my own conclusions and the patience you show when teaching and reinforcing skills that nurture my mindset and thought processes into a more positive, healthy and helpful relationship with myself.